- Send a simple text: “Thinking about you. Hope you’re well.” 2. Reach out to someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time.
- Write a letter you may never send—just to process your feelings.
- List three good qualities about the person you’re upset with.
- Offer a genuine compliment. 6. Listen for 5 minutes without interrupting or defending yourself. 7. Let go of the need to win the argument.
- Invite them for coffee or a short walk. 9. Send them something helpful or thoughtful. 10. Make the first move—even if you think they/“should” first.
What is Shalom for Charlotte?
After the tragic passing of Charlotte Herzberg, her family chose unity over division, shalom over blame, and healing over conflict. Today, people across communities, cities, and countries are reaching out to friends, family members, neighbors, and colleagues to repair relationships and let go of grudges, some just days old, others stretching back years. Every act of shalom is a zechus for Charlotte’s neshama, and brings Klal Yisroel one step closer to the geulah.
Join the thousands of documented acts of Shalom.
“I have a neighbor who has really made my child’s social life very difficult in our neighborhood. It is very challenging to constantly be around them. I have stopped avoiding them and I will iyH try to have genuine conversations with them. I don’t think it will happen overnight but I hope to be able to put it all past me soon.”
“My daughter was terribly hurt by a boy she was dating. In my entire adult life up to this point I have never felt myself harboring the anger and resentment I felt toward this boy and his parents- for allowing him to act in the selfish and reckless way that he did. I tried to let it go and chalk it up to immaturity but in my heart I could not forgive and forget. As a zechus for Charlotte and with tremendous respect for the example you set, I was able to release my anger and forgive them with a full heart. May you continue to unite Klal Yisroel with this beautiful initiative.”
“I will embrace my mom the next time she does something that I don’t agree with. I will stay silent and move on. Not complain, not talk back. In honor of your beautiful daughter, Charlotte.”
“I forgive the person who wasn’t there for me when I needed them most. It doesn’t matter, because Hashem has always been there for me and all of Klal Yisroel needs to be on the same page so we can be stronger than ever.”
“I let go of a grudge I had against a cousin who said something very hurtful to me many years ago. I realized that he has changed a lot since then, and that it’s ok to let go of past grievances.”
“A family member owes me over $60,000 and I chose to forgive them. And did not let it ruin our relationship.”
One conversation can change everything.
A grudge can last for years. A phone call can last five minutes. Choose the phone call. Choose healing. Choose shalom. Bring more shalom into the world and honor Charlotte. Take the Pledge
This article was found in Nekuda Tova Issue 90.